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Oh, agreed. I would have to trust the VPN to actually not collect my data. That’s why I’m curious what VPNs people trust these days.

Tor is great. I used to run a middle/guard relay in the past, thinking about doing so again. The problem is that reuglar people shouldn’t run exit relay at home. And there aren’t many companies that would allow exit relays on their servers/in their datacentre. I get why, but that leaves only a (relatively) small number of exit relays and it’s so much easier for bad actors to control a significant number of them. :(

Out of curisoity, what would you recommend for privacy then?

Pidgin, maybe. I like it.

Edit: Oops, I might have misread/misunderstood what you were asking. If you’re asking about server software, I’d suggest XMPP :)

Though I know Matrix is very popular (as shown by people others suggesting it)